The moment you walk into a new place, presenting itself is an opportunity to speak with and get to know different people. As you draw into conversation introducing yourself to a person, you may realise conversation with new people either flows with the various common interests you have or takes time to develop a bond.
The former mentioned are the friendships I choose to pursue, this consists of the people that I find myself intrigued to even after the third time meeting them. I feel excited about finding new perks about their life, with any hobby or experience, I know I will learn and feel enlightened by each conversation.
When you meet someone allow yourself to become observant. Listen into the lifestyle of this person, identifying the values we share and see how they interact with those around them. You can find out if a person will care about you through their actions and attitude for their other friends.
1. They Are Proud Of You
A genuine friend celebrates your success whether it be completing all the required homework for the week or getting a new job. They encourage you and appreciate how far you have come because they see your hope and determination to succeed.
You feel proud and supported as you pursue your goals knowing your friends will always be happy for you. Each idea or goal you share is met with both curiosity and excitement as you seek what is yet to come.
Even when you suddenly try something new or unexpected they smile and listen to your new experiences. You can always confide in them when you feel conflicted as these friends always seem to give the best advice to get you out of any situation.
You never notice your differences the only hardship appearing when you have some time apart. It could be a couple of months or a year gone by however, as soon as you see each other again it will be just like the old times.
2. You Share Similar Ambitions
You do not have to have all of the same interests and hobbies in fact, having only a handful of the same interests and hobbies can be helpful to providing a quality friendship. Surround yourself with people who you can learn and grow with.
Take the opportunity to make friends with people that encourage your ambitions and direction in life. These are going to be those you can trust and turn to for any situation. These friends should be running in the same direction you are heading towards.
Otherwise their lifestyle, taken from their actions or words, will hold you back from achieving your ambitions. If you find it difficult to determine which direction your friend is heading towards ask them about their goals being- educational, professional goals or interests they envision to accomplish.
3. You Move At A Slow Pace
When making a new encounter with a person it is most essential to take it slow in order to really get to know a person before you assign any labels. When the other person assigns a label first, acknowledge it and take the time to think upon it.
In doing so, we can support a friendship or relationship that surpasses the honeymoon phase and is there for the long haul. All good things take times. It is easy to get caught up in our feelings and you should always consciously take a step back and reflect on the other person.
Here you will have an early opportunity to determine your relationship with this person, you will ultimately decide the impact and influence of this person in your life. Taking your time to ease into a friendship gives leeway for you to be yourself and maintain your daily interactions with family and friends.
4. Your Efforts Match
Occasionally it is not you; it’s them. If you are initiating each catch up, continually accepting excuses to spend some time with that person. This person may not value you as much as you find value in them.
Always have faith in knowing that there are many people who do value you and there are people you are yet to meet who will match your efforts and the time you put in. Put yourself first in recognising when your efforts are not being matched, if the person is not treating you with respect or not putting as much work in as you; they are not meant for you.
You deserve a more equally balanced friendship. By taking new opportunities full of wonder and adventure, you will find yourself with people who put in as much effort to get to know and spend time with you.
Friendships founded with similar values and mutual respect help you to showcase your best self.
Once you recognise your personal values and the qualities you appreciate in each of your friends and family members, you will build and maintain friendships with people like true self. Surrounding yourself with good friends who you can be yourself around allowing you to grow effortlessly will amount to less drama and hurt in your life.
Pace is everything in new friendships, taking it slow to determine your friends’ values and treatment towards others offers you an early choice to continue or walk away. Focus on the friendships with matched efforts and appreciation for each other’s successes.
A friend that will feel happy for the small or large goals you achieve in your day. After practicing these simple habits over a month, I was able to become a better friend for people I met and no longer felt hesitant about some friendships I knew I had to let go of.
Written By Juliette Pierre
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